When you are single in life, it is only you. There are two of you when you are a part of a couple. Me becomes we. There is nothing wrong with this transition. It is okay to be in a relationship. It is nice having someone stand next to you and hold your hand. However, if you lose yourself completely, that can be a problem.
People in relationships are not the only ones guilty of adding to this problem. If your friend Sally shows up to the bar without her other half, you skip over ‘Hello’ and immediately ask her, “Where’s Bob?” Sally was just dismissed as a person because she was not with her significant other. Why do the majority of people skip over someone? Do you have to lose yourself when you become a part of a ‘We?’
The other people that contribute to this problem are the ones who cannot do anything without their significant other. Were you not an individual before you became a couple? Why can’t you come out by yourself? Will you combust into nothing if you step out by yourself? It is not healthy to be with your other half all day, every day. It is a great being able to share your life with someone. It is wonderful if you find that person to compliment who you are as a person. None of that means you have to give up your whole self to be a part of a couple. Couples that will go the distance are the ones that understand the importance of balance in a relationship.
Everyone needs time to themselves or time with their own friends. When you are married with kids, you need time for you, your husband, and your kids. You cannot be a mom all the time and neglect yourself and your husband. There has to be balance in a relationship, friendship, marriage, eating, working out, and anything you do in life. Moderation and balance are the keys in life.